Attractor Factors

Do opposites attract?

Transformational Life Coach

There are two sayings that stand out.  Opposites attract and birds of a feather flock together. Which is more important to you? Would you rather be with someone that shares similar interests to your own or do you prefer someone that has dominant features that complement your own dominant features like shy/outgoing?

Only you can decide what those interests mean to you by looking deep inside and being real about what you want.   Initially, you need a strong physical attraction.  Eventually, the infatuation will wear off. There must be something intriguing about them to make you want to get to know them better and on a deeper level. You have to have an open mind and be willing to experience new and different things from what you are used to.  Passionate relationships require flexibility and compromise.  You need to be able to look at your partner’s view and accept that it can be different from your own.  I think you and your partner should share some common interests, but all of your interests don’t need to be the same.

Someone’s appearance may initially attract you, but it’s the qualities that make them who they that keep you attracted.  Do you have chemistry on a deeper level than just physical attraction such as spiritually, intellectually or sexually?

Even when you love someone, there is also the issue of compatibility.  Do you have a willingness and a desire to grow together?  How do you manage your differences?  Do you love yourself?  Are you self-fulfilled?  One must be self-fulfilled and truly ready for a partnership to make one work.

Real companionship is when you are committed to the relationship and you are willing to go the extra mile to make it work. Compromise and dedication on both parts make a partnership work.  Often, we marry the wrong people because we base our expectations on attraction rather than who the person really is.  So many times we overlook what’s really important to us in a partner.  We make the mistake thinking we can change the other person to fit our needs.  If you put little value on what you desire in your mate and settle for less, the relationship either won’t last or you won’t be happy for long.

The best solution is to get to know yourself, be self-fulfilled and don’t settle for less than what you want.